Odds are...

Today is my friend Kate's wedding. She has been so excited and so wrapped up in planning this day, I have hardly heard from her in the past 5 months. I can't be there--the wedding is in Florida--but I wish her the best. She will be a beautiful and happy bride, and I hope she and her spouse have many, many anniversaries.

The thing is, Kate is marrying a woman. I don't care, but so many people do, I can't believe it. Who would deny someone as sweet as Kate the only happiness she has known on THAT premise? It seems so selfish and silly.

I have come to know Kate's partner, Nicole, over the past couple months vicariously through facebook and her responses to Kate's posts. They seem truly in love. I have never thought her to be gruff or harsh, like so many husbands are to their wives. I have always been an "ally" but up until the past month only thought the term was "fag hag".

I just don't care what goes on in other peoples' bedrooms. That is of no concern to me. It doesn't affect me or my relationship with my husband, so I don't know why anyone would care. I also consider the odds. I have seven children. Odds are pretty good that one or more of them might be gay. I hardly think I would love them any less if they were. I might love them more, in fact, for their adversity.

Take that, gay bashers. Throw some rocks in your glass houses. Everything looks convoluted through the spiderwebs of broken glass. And if that's how you want to see the world, fine by me. But please keep your hateful "Marriage = Man + Woman" bumper stickers to yourself. They seem so immature and offensive. That would be like saying "Only blondes can have babies" and I think there was a little German guy with a funny moustache who tried that once.

Try loving the folks you don't understand. It makes the world that much of a nicer place. And it takes far less energy, so you could conserve your efforts for truly important causes like preventing child abuse. Just sayin'...